We’re All Gonna Die - Get Into It: Estate Planning for the Queer Community

Schedule

Mon Oct 20 2025 at 07:00 pm to 10:00 pm

UTC-07:00

Location

OASIS | San Francisco, CA

Join Patricia DeFonte, Estate Planning Attorney & deep queer ally, to start your estate plan.
About this Event

We’re All Gonna Die - Get Into It: Estate Planning for the Queer Community

Presented by Oasis Arts

Darlings, we know it sucks, and we’d rather not discuss it, but it’s true - we’re all going to die. However, because we’re strong and fabulous, we can make preparing for this sad fact into a fabulous event.

Join Patricia DeFonte, Estate Planning Attorney & deep queer ally, to start your estate plan.

Monday October 20th at Oasis - Doors 6PM, Event start 7PM

Event is FREE - any donations will go to Oasis Arts - a non-profit 501c3 organization committed to raising the impact of queer arts both locally and worldwide. Learn more at oasisartsinc.org


We will

  • Fill out our advance health care directives
  • Choose who will act on our behalf if we become incapacitated
  • Start to think about what we want to happen to our stuff
  • Have real talk with each other about preparing for the inevitable, no matter where we are in our lives
  • Get the actual paperwork signed and notarized or witnessed

If you’re thinking: Estate-planning? Isn’t that for old rich people? think again. This for you, for us. It is a crucial, caring thing to do for yourself and your beloved chosen family. Take care of your community and let them take care of you. Let’s get our shit together, together.

We know this stuff is hard to think and talk about, but you’ll be so glad you did!


More about Patricia:

Patricia DeFonte & DeFonte Law’s tagline is Estate Planning with Heart® and she means it, from the bottom of hers. With a great passion for serving the LGBTQ+ community, she’s the lawyer for us.

While great strides have been made, the LGBT+ community continues to have specific estate planning issues and needs. De Fonte Law PC’s health care directives contain provisions related to respect for gender identification, the importance of working with medical providers who respect and/or are part of the LGBT+ community, and the importance of avoiding a “re-closeting” during a period of infirmity. Many of our older clients are estranged from their families, have lost loved ones to illness, and were precluded from having children, which can make selecting a successor and agents difficult. Estate planning for single people who do not have children can be difficult. Often, they do not think it is important or do not feel ready because they are unsure who should receive their assets. Single people need incapacity planning – advanced health care directives and durable powers of attorney, and revocable trust to put the right people in charge in the event of incapacity. Their insurance needs might also be unique, with an emphasis on disability insurance and long-term care insurance over life insurance.

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OASIS, 298 11th Street, San Francisco, United States
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