Learn to Love Better — A Couples Workshop Grounded in Gottman Research

Most Singaporean couples are not in crisis. They are busy, they are functional, and somewhere along the way the relationship quietly became the last thing on the list.

The same argument that keeps coming back. The conversations that go nowhere. The feeling of being beside each other more than truly with each other. Nothing dramatic. Just a slow drift that neither person quite knows how to reverse.

This workshop is for couples who want to build a relationship worth having, and are ready to be deliberate about it.

Over 2 hours, we draw on Dr John and Julie Gottman's decades of research with over 3,000 couples — the findings behind what actually makes relationships last, not what sounds good, but what the data consistently shows separates couples who grow together from couples who grow apart. And what you can start doing about it this week.

This is not a talk you sit and listen to. It is a guided experience built around structured couple activities — conversations you have not had, questions you have not asked, and plans you have not made. You will be working with your partner throughout, guided by a Level 2 Gottman-trained, Singapore Association of Counselling registered counsellor who holds the structure so you can focus on each other.

You will leave having explored what showing up differently actually looks like — for your relationship, specifically. Not in theory. In practice. With a shared plan you both had a hand in building.

What you will walk away with:

Understanding the framework that your relationship needs to not just survive but thrive, and how to build the foundation for emotional intimacy

A clearer picture of your partner's inner world right now — their stresses, their needs, what they are reaching for — and the tools to keep that picture current.

The knowledge of what your relationship's specific conflict patterns are, and the Gottman-researched antidotes that actually work.

A concrete picture of what showing up differently looks like for both of you — not a vague intention, but an actual shared plan.

Limitations and pitholes all relationships are susceptible to, and what to do about them.

What the session looks like:

The workshop moves between short guided input and structured couple activities. You will have dedicated time to work with your partner — not present to the group. There is no requirement to share personal information with other couples. Everything stays between you.

The activities are guided. You are never left to figure it out alone. The structure is held so you can focus entirely on each other.

Who this is for:

Couples who are not in crisis but know something could be better. Couples who have been together long enough that the relationship has become more functional than intentional. Couples who want to invest in what they have before they need to repair it.

Who this is not for:

Couples in acute crisis or navigating active infidelity. This workshop is experiential and educational — it is not a substitute for couples counselling. If you are in that season, individual couples counselling is a better first step.

About the facilitator:

Rene Tan is a Singapore Association of Counselling registered counsellor (Registration Number C1115) and the founder of Somatic Attachment Therapy. Trained in Gottman Method Levels 1 and 2, she specialises in attachment-based counselling and works with individuals and couples navigating relationship patterns, attachment wounds, and the question of how to love someone well over a long time. You can visit her profile on her website here: https://www.somaticattachmenttherapy.sg/therapist

A note on format:

This is an intimate workshop capped at 7 couples. All activities are done as a couple — there is no requirement to share personal information with the group. The session is structured and guided throughout.

Seats are limited. Once full, a waiting list will be opened for future runs.

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