HMU Academy: How to Build a D/s Dynamic

In this workshop, we’ll explore how to co-create a power dynamic rooted in trust, intention, and healing
About this Event

This Hit Me Up event is open to the public, 21+.

About the Event

Power exchange can be one of the most intimate and transformative paths in kink — but building a Dominant/submissive (D/s) dynamic takes more than just titles and tasks. In this workshop, we’ll explore how to co-create a power dynamic rooted in trust, intention, and healing.
Together, we’ll dive into all the different types of dynamics including 24/7, scene-based, caregiver/little, owner/pet, service-oriented, handler/object, and more! Get ready to explore rituals, protocols, contracts, rules, rewards, and punishments — plus the profound devotion that makes it all meaningful.
Through interactive exercises, we’ll navigate common challenges like long distance, polyamory, work balance, lifestyle differences, and protocols that no longer serve. Whether you're just beginning your D/s journey or looking to deepen an existing connection, this class offers practical tools and frameworks for negotiation, role development, and sustainable structure.
Come prepared to reflect, dream, and design your unique dynamic in your own unique way!

About Your Instructor

Jamie Joy (they/them) is a queer trans Jewish certified sex educator and hungry slut for freaky fantasies. Their life and work is committed to spreading joy, consent, and pleasure through community orgynizing. They have been educating on a wide range of topics related to sex and sexuality for the past 10+ years with experience in K-12 schools, health clinics, college campuses, adult sex shops, national conferences, BDSM dungeons, non-profits, community organizations, and more. Jamie Joy loves to stay up late, throw an unforgettable party, and teach people about the wonders of fisting and fire play. They are always excited to connect and collaborate - find them on Instagram @thebadjewboy or their website www.jamiejoy.com

FAQs

FAQ: what should I bring?

Optional: supplies to take notes with

FAQ: any skill pre-requisites? (i.e., is this for beginners, advanced, everyone?)

Open to everyone of all genders, sexualities, experiences, and skill levels

FAQ: what should I wear?

Whatever you want!

FAQ: can I attend solo, or do I need to come with a partner?

No partner required!

Price Transparency
The full fee for this workshop reflects the true costs of running the event, including supplies and compensating facilitators for their labor. If you are able to afford a full price ticket without experiencing financial hardship, please choose this option. Those who cannot afford a full fee ticket are welcome to use our discount EQUITY26 at checkout.

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