HMU Academy: Fight Me - K*nky Combat

Learn safe mutual combat for tops, bottoms, and everyone between. Takedowns, defense, striking, negotiation, and safe scene skills.
About this Event

This Hit Me Up event is open to the public, 21+.

About the Class

What happens when resistance itself becomes part of the scene?
Fight Me! is a hands-on workshop exploring consensual struggle, physical resistance, wrestling, takedowns, and controlled combat-inspired play within kink and power-exchange scenes. Rather than treating resistance as something to simply overcome, we’ll explore how it can become a form of communication: something negotiated, responsive, playful, intense, and deeply engaging for everyone involved.
This class is designed for tops, bottoms, switches, and anyone interested in adding more dynamic physicality to their scenes. The focus is not on “winning a fight.” It is on learning how two people can safely create the experience of a struggle together.
We’ll begin with negotiation and communication: how to discuss intensity, physical limitations, boundaries, intent, stop signals, and what kind of resistance each person actually wants. From there, we’ll move into body mechanics and practical partner exercises covering balance, positioning, controlled contact, and ways of moving together without turning a scene into an accidental martial-arts tournament.
Participants will explore:

• Standing and kneeling struggle
• Wrestling and playful resistance exercises
• Safe approaches to takedowns and being taken down
• Balance, body positioning, and controlling momentum
• Giving a bottom room to offer meaningful resistance
• The difference between playful/fetish wrestling, semi-competitive struggle, and genuinely competitive energy
• Controlled striking and contact while remaining connected and responsive to a partner
• Primal-style movement and pursuit
• Low-stakes ways to explore physical struggle
• Checking in, adjusting intensity, and recognizing when a scene needs to change direction
• Negotiating physical play before it begins and communicating once words become harder to use
  

We’ll look at how a bottom can push, evade, fight for position, resist a takedown, surrender ground slowly, or otherwise create a convincing and satisfying physical exchange while remaining within the negotiated structure of the scene.
For the person initiating or controlling the encounter, we’ll explore the other half of that conversation: how to read resistance instead of simply overpowering it, how to modulate force, how to maintain awareness while adrenaline rises, and how to preserve the feeling of a power struggle without losing the cooperation that makes consensual play possible.
Throughout the class, exercises will build from lower-intensity movement and games toward more involved partner work. Participation is always negotiable, and observing an exercise is a valid way to participate.
By the end of the workshop, attendees should leave with a larger vocabulary for consensual physical struggle, a better understanding of takedown and resistance safety, practical exercises they can continue practicing, and new ways to make combat-inspired scenes feel more connected, intentional, and satisfyingly difficult.
Come ready to move, communicate, negotiate—and put up a fight.

About Your Instructors

Mx. Fox is a femme domme, k!nk educator, and relationship & intimacy coach with nearly a decade of experience practicing and teaching in the NYC scene. Their work focuses on helping people of all experience levels build confidence, express themselves shamelessly, and create hotter, safer, and more connected play and relationships.

Patch is an experienced impact top of over 15 years, enjoying the weirder and more unhinged aspects of play and psychology. As a professional drummer he enthusiastically integrates rhythm and syncopation into his k!nk life, creating scenes and situations that are exciting to see and hear alike.

FAQs

FAQ: what should I bring?

Yourself, Clean extra pair of socks, Any physical accommodation equipment you may need (IE: joint braces etc)

FAQ: any skill pre-requisites? (i.e., is this for beginners, advanced, everyone?)

All skill levels welcome

FAQ: what should I wear?

Athletic wear appropriate for physical movement and potential contact.

FAQ: can I attend solo, or do I need to come with a partner?

You can attend solo. We will be doing partnered exercises, at which point you would be free to partner with someone else who came solo if desired.

Price Transparency
The full fee for this workshop reflects the true costs of running the event, including supplies and compensating facilitators for their labor. If you are able to afford a full price ticket without experiencing financial hardship, please choose this option. Those who cannot afford a full fee ticket are welcome to use our discount EQUITY26 at checkout.

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