Deeper Authentic Connections Monthly In Person Mixer@Richmond

In today’s world, we’re all wired for online connections. It’s changing how we connect with each other. Physical social interactions are declining fast.

Since COVID many of us have found it challenging to find others that want what we want: a deeper,more authentic connection with another human being.

I have come up with a solution to change that, for those that would like to increase their social connections and make them count as deep and meaningful.....

WHO ARE THESE MONTHLY MIXERS SUITABLE FOR?

These monthly in person mixers :

• Are open to all adult men and women of all ages: regardless of whether you are socially anxious or a social butterfly,single or attached,if you have many friends, few or none, or if you are teetotal or a social drinker or regardless of whether you have a diet with no restrictions or you have specific food requirements....you are all welcome!(please feel free to contact me if you have questions and/or specific requirements and I will do my best to address and accommodate them).
• This will hopefully be a group of like minded people coming together for drinks and/or a food once a month each time
• In a different pub, bar, cafe or restaurant in or around greater London. The venues will differ each month from cool bars,interesting coffee shops to quirky restaurants, or cosy pubs. You are guaranteed one thing: every month we will be meeting up at a new venue.
• The mixers will run at different times every month, so offering flexibility to most. So one month we could we getting all glammed out for an elegant cocktail bar, while another month we could be getting together for a casual afternoon meet up...
• You can RSVP to attend once or every month, or whenever you feel in the mood to attend.

If part of your goals for 2024 is to:

• Increase your circle of friends
• Find your significant other or someone to date
• Meet people who will support you through whatever stage of life you are going through
• Maybe you are new in the UK and would like to connect with people where you can practice your English and start feeling part of the country and culture
• Or just meet people to network with for personal or professional reasons.

If so then this monthly run event might be for you ..

The only requirement to attend is that you are willing to meet new people in ways that foster a deeper connection.

HOW WILL THESE MIXERS WORK?

It’s hard to meet people these days.The social disconnect we all feel is real.

Sure, there are ways to increase the quantity of your connections – dating apps, remote meeting software, traditional networking events. The goal for these monthly events is to provide a more personable alternative that feels less impersonal and transient.

Deeper Authentic Connection Monthly In Person Mixers is founded on improving the quality of connections based on the science of how we bond. So how do we do that ?

We need to build the muscle of how we hold space for each other. One way to do this is by hosting these monthly pub dinners and:

• Matching people in common based on interests/values, and also offering a means for anyone to connect even if there is no apparent affinity with another, thereby deepening how one connects with others.
• Setting norms for connections,
• Engaging in a regular shared activity, (these monthly pub dinners)and
• Asking intentional questions.

To allow relationships to unfold naturally, there are certain rules to be followed:

• If at all possible avoid talking about you do for work, initially. The intent is to understand the person in front of you in a deeper way(values, beliefs, experiences, interests etc...) and less about understanding what roles they have in life.
• It is highly recommended (but not manfatory)that anyone who attends will need to commit to attending the duration of the event on the night to get the most out of the gathering.
• No mobile phones. If you do bring your phone please switch it off during the event, or silence it: this is to ensure that you are fully present to others and they to you.

I will explain on the day, more fully on how to engage to get the most out of the event. It is recommended to attend the monthly events on a regular basis to get the most out of them. But this is merely a recommendation and not a must.

THE BENEFITS OF ATTENDING:

Let me ask you this:

What does it look like for you to feel truly seen, heard and known ?

This is the question you need to ask yourself to get the most out of these monthly meet ups.

As a , I want to offer the space where high-quality connections can occur. We need to build the muscle of how we hold space for each other and I think these monthly pub dinner events can do that. The focus is on holding space and showing curiosity towards another and realizing that even if we are very different to the person in front of us that we can always aim to find similarities with another person.This monthly space is an opportunity to know oneself, get to know others, learn how to listen to others and hold space for them and then allow for meaningful relationships to flourish.

Happy connecting!

INTERESTED IN ATTENDING?

WELCOME TO CONNECTED EXCLUSIVE EVENTS....

My name is Lou and it gives me great pleasure to offer events that connects people in meaningful and fun ways, while at the same time offering a more bespoke service that does not break the bank! I pride myself in making sure during my events that everyone feel welcome and included as I know how daunting it can be to meet new people!Here are a few things you need to know before RSVPing...

◼️All Connected Exclusive Events in person events are listed without a venue : just a general area is mentioned. Once RSVPs close a day before the event after 6.30pm all paid attendees will get a message from me through Eventbrite with my contact number and exact meet up details, and any pertinent last minute information in order to be able to attend. Please ensure you contact me should you not receive the message, no later than at the end of the night before the event. I do not give refunds for no shows if an attendee claims they did not get meet up location notification, or contacts me on the day of the event. Please ensure your email address is correct and up to date when you RSVP to ensure you are contactable. I am contactable on my mobile phone (this will be sent on the email message I will send all attendees the evening before the event) around the time of the event, so if you cannot find the venue or the group, please feel free to get in touch by phone.(This is for phone calls only. I do not reply to text messages)

◼️The event fee to RSVP minimally covers the cost, time and fees necessary to put these events together and is set to encourage attendees to turn up to the event. My events are listed well ahead of time and RSVPs are open until a day before the event.Reminders are sent out as well. Please do not RSVP unless you know you can attend. This allows me, the host, a chance to curate a better event for all and it creates a better experience for those that do show up on the day.

◼️No refunds given under any circumstance, except if event is cancelled (see details below): The listed fee per person to RSVP to this event is non-refundable.On occasion there might be a need to reschedule events as I don't have a team in the background running my online or in person events, it is run by only one person, myself. So there might be times when an event will need to be postponed or as a last option,cancelled. If in the rare instance that the RSVP count is too low to run the event(in other words not enough interest )or for any other unforeseen circumstances that can come up, which will make rescheduling an event a necessity, a credit of fee paid will be used to attend the rescheduled event for another event(in person or online event) of the same ticketed price.No refunds/credits given for late arrivals, no shows, if you change your mind, if you can no longer attend, you don't like how the event was run, or you cannot attend the new rescheduled event because you are not available on the new date(in case event has been rescheduled) and you do not feel there are any other optional events you want to attend instead etc...... If there is an exceptional concern(not mentioned here)where a refund is requested, I will address it on a case by case basis. In these circumstances, if a refund is granted it will be minus Eventbrite fees and this will usually be processed within 30 days of the refund request. Please be aware of this before RSVPing.

◼️The listed event fee is not redeemable against any drinks/food or extras. Drinks and extras like food etc..are paid for by each person directly to the venue. There is no minimum spend at venues, unless this is specified. All my events are run as walk-in events at the venues.I am in no way affiliated or representing the venues. Therefore if attendees have any questions on the day please contact me directly on my mobile phone and not the venue.

◼️This event is not being offered as therapy/counselling and so does not constitute as a diagnosis or replacement for medical or psychological treatment. It is being run for self-help, motivation, information/educational and discussion purposes only. You will need to be able to assume responsibility for your own emotional wellbeing as it's not always possible to consider individual triggers in a group setting. If you feel you have deep rooted mental health issues that are affecting your life right now,please do find appropriate, expert help in addition to helping yourself. The results can often mean seeing a significant improvement in your wellbeing,mental health and life.

◼️Please behave with respect and consideration towards others.Inappropriate behaviour from any attendee, will result in said attendee being banned from attending Connected Exclusive Events.

◼️This event is being run as a social mixer. It is an invitation for people (men and women) to come together and share an activity. On the day of the event, I , the organiser, have no control over who shows up. Every event is different and unique. Some are well attended, some are not.I do not offer refunds to attendees who are unhappy about the event not having an equal mix of men and women, or not being happy about how many people showed up(whether that is too many people or too few people)or how or where the event is run.

◼️As the organiser, I will take all possible precautions to ensure that this event is run as safely as possible for all attendees. By signing up and attending any of my events , you agree that your safety and personal belongings are your own responsibility and I am not responsible or liable for either.

◼️If you have any personal requirements that you need to be considered to attend this event, please contact me to discuss before you RSVP.

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Host or Publisher Lucia Santos