ButchFemme Philly x Philly Queer Slowdance: Sunday Tea Dance!

You are cordially invited to:

❤ ButchFemme Philly x Philly Queer Slowdance ❤

A cozy, intimate afternoon with slow songs all night long, designated dancers to bring out the wallflowers, and a dancecard to set up dances in advance (if you choose to). It's a middle school dance (for the 21+ crowd), but in the cutest and best way, and it's queer and it's in the Gayborhood and hopefully you're there too.

Wear what makes you feel good and awesome. But leave off the perfume or cologne - when we're getting up close and cozy, it's very harsh for the scent-sensitive, so come fresh and looking nice.

This event is a collaboration between ButchFemme Philly and Philly Queer Slowdance – if you fall within the crowd of ButchFemme Philly, this one is for you! Other members of the queer family, and allies, please come to a regular Slowdance event instead :)

Designated dancers are at the event to help bring you out to the dancefloor. If you are outgoing, warm, and willing to undertake the very serious duty and responsibility of inviting wallflowers out onto the dancefloor - if in fact, such a prospect gives you great joy - then please contact the organizers at via Eventbrite.

We are so very looking forward to dancing with you ❤ ❤ ❤ ❤ ❤

WHAT'S A DANCE CARD? Dance cards will have a list of some of the songs that will be played in the evening. When you arrive to the dance, you can (if you want) pick up a dance card and chat with folks and ask them to dance a future dance with you. Dance cards are optional!

HOW DOES DANCING WITH PEOPLE EVEN WORK? If you are coming to a Queer Slowdance event, you have the right to ask anyone you want to dance. But whoever it is you asked has the right to refuse your request, and not have to give any reason why. But in the beautiful world we inhabit, you have this right as well. This is done because slowdancing with someone is rather an intimate sort of enterprise, and a minor commitment, and you should have the right to back out anytime you wish. Queer Slowdance is about consensual respect and enjoyment. Just because you may have danced with someone for most of the song, if at any point you are feeling unsafe or uncomfortable, you can simply walk away. If whoever it is persists in their attention, locate one of the organizers, and they will be ejected from the premises.

DESIGNATED DANCERS? There will be a handful of our Designated Dancers available to dance with you for the first portion of the evening - so arrive early! They will be identifiable, and these Designated Dancers are warm, charming, and safe people to ask to dance. Of course, the same Rules of Engagement apply, and they, as free agents, can decide for themselves who they want to dance with, and for how long, but in all likelihood, they would be very open to dancing with you. They will also be looking for you, and asking you to dance, trying in their way to turn any wallflowers into perennials.

ACCESSIBILITY? There is a flight of stairs to get into the event. There are single-stall bathrooms on the first floor, and one upstairs if you really need it (downstairs preferred). Masking is welcome, but not required.

TICKETS AT THE DOOR? Yes! There will be tickets day of and at the door if we haven't sold out. You can buy a ticket on Eventbrite or Venmo right there. We suggest buying tickets beforehand, because if we sell out, we won't have door tickets.

SAFETY AND TAKING CARE OF EACH OTHER: Sometimes it happens that there is someone in the crowd who will make you feel unsafe or uncomfortable when dancing. This does not have to be an obvious thing, like leading with their groin, or touching you without asking. It could just be a weird feeling. You are more than within your rights to stop the dance right there, and not have to explain. You are more than within your rights to say to them, "Hey! Don't do that!" and then discuss your boundaries during the dance itself. We urge and encourage discussion of boundaries. If something like this happens, do please let a designated dancer or organizer know (the DDs can help you find an organizer). Organizers reserve the right to ask anyone to leave for any reason which does not have to be disclosed.

Philly Queer Slowdance is inspired by Toronto Queer Slowdance, and thanks those organizers and community for making such cool things.

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