Speed Dating Beyond Small Talk | Silicon Valley (San Jose) Speed Dating | Tantra Speed Date®
About this Event
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Since 2017, we’ve been helping singles connect beyond small talk. Tantra Speed Date has been hosted at over 2,061 events in 70+ cities worldwide and facilitated more than 349,777 dates.
Most speed dating events are built around conversation.
Tantra Speed Date is built around connection.
You'll feel the difference right away.
Instead of trying to impress strangers, you'll be guided through playful experiences where attraction and connection emerge naturally.
No pickup lines. No awkward approaches. No wondering who should make the first move
The entire evening is guided from beginning to end, so you can simply relax and enjoy meeting people.
Every Tantra Speed Date begins the same way.
Before the one-on-one guided dates begin, we all make two simple agreements.
First, how we'll show up for one another:
We agree to let go of expectations, suspend judgment, and bring out the best in each other.
It may seem like a small thing.
But it creates a very different kind of first date.
And when everyone makes that agreement together, it sets the tone for everything that follows.
Second, how we'll create a great experience together:
Every experience is an invitation. You can participate fully, modify an exercise, or simply sit one out. You're always at choice.
Your facilitator will encourage you to notice what feels like a genuine "yes"... to honor that, and to help your partner feel just as comfortable doing the same.
When we stop trying to impress each other, something surprising happens...
You won't be in your head wondering what to say next. You'll be too busy laughing, playing, and actually enjoying yourself.
Every date is an experiment in connection.
We call them Dating Stations, and each one is guided by your facilitator.
Each one is a chance to meet someone new and discover how the two of you naturally connect.
They're inspired by authentic relating, actor's improv, movement, mindful touch and - yes - Tantra.
Not the Hollywood version.
The real one: an ancient practice of presence and connection that's far more human than most people expect.
And dating starts to feel... effortless.
When was the last time you were having so much fun on a date you forgot to check your phone?
That's Tantra Speed Date.
Most people arrive a little nervous, which is completely normal for a dating event.
Within minutes, you'll realize there was nothing to be nervous about.
Your facilitator will greet you, help you settle in, and give you a simple conversation starter so those first introductions feel easy and natural.
You'll receive everything you need for the evening, including your dating pouch.
Then we'll gather as a group to set the tone for the evening before moving into the Dating Stations, where you'll meet each date through a series of playful, guided experiences.
Your facilitator stays with you every step of the way, making sure everyone feels included, comfortable, and knows exactly what to do next.
No experience is needed. You'll meet the whole group and spend the evening connecting through our guided Dating Stations.
Within 24 hours, you'll receive your matches by email.
By the end of the night, you'll understand why people often linger long after the event officially ends.
94.09% of people who attend Tantra Speed Date connect with at least one person.
If you don't, your next ticket is on us.
Just email us and we'll make it happen.
Worst case?
You spend an evening meeting great people, have an experience you'll remember, and get to come back for free.
We let women make the first gesture.
We designed it this way because we believe dating works best when people can express genuine interest without anyone having to experience rejection in front of the room.
At the end of each date, the men close their eyes.
The women place a hand over the man’s heart. If she’d like to see him again, she gently slips one of her beads into the pouch resting beneath her hand.
Because every transition feels exactly the same, no one knows in the moment whether a bead was placed.
A bead in a pouch is considered a match. Within 24 hours, we’ll email matches to both of you, and from there, either person is welcome to reach out.
It’s one small example of the care and intention behind every part of the evening.
Most people come hoping to meet someone special.
Many leave with something they never expected.
Maybe more confidence.
Maybe renewed hope.
Maybe the feeling that dating doesn't have to be so exhausting.
Maybe realizing there are still kind, thoughtful men and women looking for love.
Maybe you'll even believe in dating again.
And yes... many people leave with matches.
Sometimes, one of them changes everything.
Every great love story has a first chapter.
Here's one of ours.
"Our connection was soft and sweet, what we both describe as the best first date of our lives. Meeting in such a vulnerable and safe environment was the perfect catalyst for an authentic connection. Having that as the base for our first meetings laid the foundation for honesty and trust."
— Jihan & Joseph
We've never had more ways to connect with each other.
Yet many of us feel more disconnected than ever.
Loneliness has been declared a public health epidemic*. We're spending less time together in person. Basic dating etiquette is disappearing. And if you've spent any time on the apps recently, you probably don't need a study to tell you that.
Somewhere along the way, we started swiping instead of speaking. Performing instead of playing. Guarding our hearts instead of giving our gifts.
That's why we created Tantra Speed Date®.
Not just to help singles meet...
To create a world where connection comes more naturally.
To create experiences where people can show up as themselves, connect more authentically, and rediscover what's possible.
Because the real magic isn't just who you meet in the room.
It's who you become in the process.
We believe dating can be different. More present. More human. More kind.
And every single time we fill a room with people who are willing to try—we get a little glimpse of what that looks like.
Come see for yourself.
Meet Your Facilitator: Annette Wilson
Annette is a Certified Tantra Speed Date® Facilitator
Annette Wilson is an Elite Certified Tantra Educator, Connection Through Ropes Educator and Tantra-Kink facilitator. She is based in Santa Cruz and teaches workshops and private lessons across the country.
Contact: [email protected]
https://www.tantrany.com/speed-dating/silicon-valley/
Tantra Speed Date® was created by Guy Shahar, Co-Founder of The Tantra Institute, and has been running events in 60+ cities for nearly a decade.
👇 Guy demonstrates some of the connection games singles play at TSD:
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👆TSD originator Guy Shahar demonstrates some of the connection games!👆
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*Don't get left out, purchase tickets in advance to guarantee your spot. We have little-to-no door tickets due to venue capacities and gender balance. Beware of fake sellers; tickets are non-transferable.
*Please note this is a sober soirée! We want you fully present to enjoy the sparks flying during your fabulous dates! If you show up tipsy, we might have to say 'see you next time.'
The Fine Print
Tickets sell out fast and we have little-to-no door sales—purchase in advance to guarantee your spot and gender balance. Tickets are only available through Eventbrite. If you're seeing them anywhere else, they're not legitimate. Tickets are non-transferable.
This is a sober event. We want you fully present—that's literally the whole point. Show up anything less than clear-headed and we'll kindly ask you to come back next time.
Please sign up with the email address you wish to share with your matches. And please include your phone number at checkout—it's the fastest way for us to reach you with any last-minute updates.
We hate spam as much as you do. Your contact information is shared only with your matches. If a connection is made, both parties receive each other's email address, as outlined in our Terms of Service.
Questions or need help with tickets? Reach us at [email protected]. We reply within 24 hours. (Check your spam folder if you don't hear back.)
*U.S. Surgeon General's Advisory on Loneliness and Isolation, 2023. †94.09% connection rate based on post-event match data collected across 2,000+ events. Individual results may vary. Tantra Speed Date® is a registered trademark of The Tantra Institute.
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Event Location & Nearby Stays:
USD 48.76 to USD 150.00
