An Evening with Meg Groff for Domestic Violence Awareness Month

Join us in welcoming local author Meg Groff as she discusses her memoir Not If I Can Help It at The Doylestown Bookshop on Wednesday, October 22, 2025, as part of Domestic Violence Awareness Month.

October is designated as National Domestic Violence Awareness Month (DVAM), a time for organizations and individuals to unite and raise awareness about domestic violence, support survivors, and mourn those lost to violence. The month began in 1981 as a "Day of Unity" and was officially declared by Congress in 1989 to focus national efforts on ending domestic violence. During DVAM, many events are held, and the color purple is used as a symbol of support and awareness, with "Purple Thursday" being a prominent day for wearing purple.

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About the Book:

Meg Groff dedicated forty years of her life to fighting for justice for victims of domestic violence in rural and suburban Pennsylvania. Not If I Can Help It recounts some of the most harrowing, infuriating, yet inspiring stories from Groff's work as a Legal Aid attorney representing women and children whose only resource is the sheer courage they exhibit every day. Among others, you'll meet:

• Lacey, a penniless single mom whose multimillionaire in-laws sued for custody of her two young sons, only to find their high-priced attorneys outmaneuvered by the blue-jean-wearing Groff;
• Annette, who won two hard-fought family court cases with Groff's help before being savagely murdered by her husband-who then tried to legally force their four children to visit him weekly in Pr*son; and
• Muriel, whose estranged husband stalked and threatened her with impunity, until Groff-with the connivance of an understanding judge-devised an imaginative plan for his comeuppance.

Groff took an unconventional path to her legal career. After years as a hippie, subsisting on odd jobs with her carpenter husband, she finished college at age 37 and entered law school driven by a passion for justice. She became an activist attorney, applying innovative tactics no law school can teach to tackle the crises that poor moms and families constantly face, victimized by callous bureaucrats, indifferent police, bigoted judges, and unjust laws. Groff quickly came to admire the tenacity and bravery of the women who dared to stand up to their abusers-and often shared the same risks at the hands of the violent, angry men who held her responsible for their loss of familiar power.

Against the odds, Groff won hundreds of exhilarating courtroom victories-and also suffered some heartbreaking defeats. In Not If I Can Help It, she brings these stories to life with vivid detail, deep empathy, surprising humor, and the boundless passion for justice that has driven her life and work. Readers who care about law, human rights, and the struggles of ordinary people will be captivated and inspired by this powerful book and the sobering insights it offers about the American way of justice.

About our Guest:

Prior to opening her own law office in 1996, Meg Groff was a family law attorney at the Legal Aid program in Bucks County, Pennsylvania, for 12 years. A recognized authority on issues of child custody and domestic violence, Groff has focused on representing victims of abuse and the poor for more than three decades, handling huge caseloads and winning countless cases. Groff has been a legal consultant to three domestic violence organizations (two national, one local), and is a fierce advocate for social justice. She has taught thousands of people-lawyers, other professionals, and laypersons, in groups of all sizes-about domestic violence and family law, and has trained police departments in the dynamics of domestic violence and the proper handling of abuse calls. She assisted in the drafting of crucial amendments to Pennsylvania's Protection from Abuse Act and to Pennsylvania's Child Custody Act, and designed and implemented a project in Bucks County that ensures free representation, regardless of income, for all victims of domestic violence seeking Protection Orders. Since settling in Bucks County in 1984, Groff has been closely affiliated with A Woman's Place, the county's battered women's shelter, and has served on the boards of numerous nonprofit agencies that assist women, children, and/or the indigent. She has received many awards and accolades for her staunch advocacy and pro bono services. Since retiring from trial work a few years ago, she has concentrated on legal consulting, on hands-on mentoring of young attorneys and advocates, and on writing this memoir. Two of her children's stories have been published in Highlights for Children magazine. A short story about one of her legal cases appeared in the January 2024 edition of After Dinner Conversations.Groff lives with her husband, a retired carpenter and leather craftsman, and their two dogs. Their daughter Ruth Groff is a professor of political science and philosophy at Saint Louis University.

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