The elevator pitch: how to talk about your identity as an edge player

The elevator pitch: how to talk about your identity as an edge player

Kink, BDSM, and Leather communities are outsider communities. Everyone in those communities is doing sex that is outside of acceptable vanilla expectations and definitions. What about those who cross the line into doing sex that is outside of acceptable kink, BDSM, and Leather community expectations and definitions? What are the lines of what is acceptable in kink, BDSM, and Leather communities? For those of us who do cross that line, how do we describe ourselves to others? How do we describe ourselves to potential play partners so they can assess their interest and give informed consent? How do we talk about ourselves in ways that help us find and build community?

Brett and Deacon will share their working definition of edge play and walk you through a process to create your identity as an edge player, including how your play is (or isn’t) outside of the norm of the BDSM, kink, and leather communities, what edges you break or push, how you want to break or push them, and how your play is potentially dangerous and damaging.

This conversation assumes previous BDSM experience and comfort with edgier play. It is appropriate for all genders and all orientations. This conversation is appropriate for tops and bottoms and will consider both top and bottom perspectives.

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