The Elevator Pitch
Schedule
Fri, 13 Feb, 2026 at 06:00 pm
UTC-08:00Location
Lovers Lair Inc | Everett, WA
Kink, BDSM, and Leather communities are outsider communities. Everyone in those communities is doing sex that is outside of acceptable vanilla expectations and definitions. What about those who cross the line into doing sex that is outside of acceptable kink, BDSM, and Leather community expectations and definitions? What are the lines of what is acceptable in kink, BDSM, and Leather communities? For those of us who do cross that line, how do we describe ourselves to others? How do we describe ourselves to potential play partners so they can assess their interest and give informed consent? How do we talk about ourselves in ways that help us find and build community?Brett and Deacon will share their working definition of edge play and walk you through a process to create your identity as an edge player, including how your play is (or isn’t) outside of the norm of the BDSM, kink, and leather communities, what edges you break or push, how you want to break or push them, and how your play is potentially dangerous and damaging.
This conversation assumes previous BDSM experience and comfort with edgier play. It is appropriate for all genders and all orientations. This conversation is appropriate for tops and bottoms and will consider both top and bottom perspectives.
This class is being hosted by our long time friend. https://fetlife.com/BrettH .
If you have not seen him at one of the many events in the past 30 years, you are truly missing out. We are truly honored to have him teach this class. Hopefully this is the first of many!
Brett and Deacon have been in some form of power relationship with each other for over 7 years. They share an intense interest in nuanced and complex conversations about kink, between themselves and with groups. They present on topics they wish people had been teaching when they came into the community and on topics they have something to say they don’t hear others saying.
Brett likes to find the edge of most anything that interests him. He is a zealot and has yet to find meaningful fulfillment in moderation. He has been doing public education for over 30 years and leading workshops in the BDSM community for over 15. His community volunteerism is usually behind the scenes.
Deacon is a self-proclaimed Freak. It believes in sex as more than the mashing of genitals, love as more than the proclamation of feeling, and consent as more than the maintenance of comfort. It has been leading workshops in the BDSM community for over 10 years.
There is an opportunity after the class for play but only for the people that have attended the class.
https://www.eventbrite.com/e/the-elevator-pitch-how-to-talk-about-your-identity-as-an-edge-player-tickets-1979419382658?aff=oddtdtcreator
Price: $20.00
Where is it happening?
Lovers Lair Inc, 5329 Evergreen Way, Everett, WA 98203-3631, United States
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