The Art of Fantasy Building

Fantasies can be surprisingly difficult to articulate.

Most of us were never taught how to understand what turns us on—there’s no “fantasy class” the way there’s an English class. We’re expected to intuit our desires, give them shape, and communicate them clearly… without ever being given the underlying structure or language to do so.

So if you’ve ever thought, “I don’t even know what I’m into,” you’re in good company.
And if you’ve thought, “I know what I want—and I want to workshop it, explore it, and share it,” this space is equally for you.

Together, we’ll examine what makes fantasy compelling. Not just the surface-level scenario, but the architecture beneath it: tension, anticipation, power, symbolism, sensory layering, and personal meaning. You’ll start to learn how to identify the core drivers of your arousal and how to intentionally build around them.

Through guided exercises and structured frameworks, you’ll develop fantasies that are not only vivid, but usable—something you can hold, understand, and, if desired, communicate or translate into real-world exploration.

You’ll leave with:

• A more nuanced understanding of what turns you on—and the mechanisms behind it
• Tools for moving from abstraction to specificity
• Language for sharing desires with partners in a clear, confident, and ethical way

Niki Davis-Fainbloom is a Canadian-born, New York-based sex educator, writer and coach who just moved to NOLA. Since receiving her Master’s degree studying the psychology of sexual dysfunction from NYU, she has facilitated hundreds of sexual education workshops at locations including Planned Parenthood, New York University, and The United Nations. Her writing has also been featured in publications such as Mind Body Green, Cosmopolitan, Refinery 29, and Pornhub Sexual Wellness Center. Her work uses up-to-date research, humor, and practical advice to help people develop the skills to have healthier and more satisfying romantic and sexual relationships. She is an expert in fetishes, and much of her coaching involves helping folks navigate unique desires, ethical non-monogamy, sexual communication, and pleasure.

You can also purchase tickets via Venmo @nikidavisf ($25-$60). If money is a barrier, send me an email, and we can work something out (for example, I always need volunteers!) [email protected]

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