Poly Bi & Pan Speed-Dating (21+)

EVENT START-END | 7:00 pm - 9:00 pm ET
CHECK-IN BEGINS | 6:30 pm ET
WHERE | Trident Books, 338 Newbury St, Boston, MA 02115 ()
AGE RANGE | 21+: This event is centered on people ages 21+ . If you are outside of this age range, don't worry-- we have a lot of other events on our calendar, including all-ages events, that might be a better fit!
FOOD/DRINKS | The entire Trident of food and alcoholic as well as nonalcoholic drinks will be available for purchase, with many allergy-friendly options for food and drinks.
PARKING / PUBLIC TRANSPORTATION | Limited parking lot spots and street parking may be available nearby, but public transportation is recommended.
ACCESSIBILITY & OTHER VENUE DETAILS | Wheelchair accessible, gender-neutral bathrooms available, noise isolation devices used. For ASL and any other accommodations not listed, please see more info .
COVID-19 PROCEDURES | Masking is optional, but recommended.

Hear from real attendees in the videos at the bottom of the page!

Want to get off your dating apps and meet someone in real life, but where you don’t have to find out that every cute person at the party is unavailable? Do you think that IRL speed dating is generally awkward and weird? So do we. That’s why we’re putting a Skip the Small Talk twist on dating.

Skip the Small Talks are usually **NOT** for dating, but so many of y’all asked us for a dating event that we decided to make an exception!

We'll be offering "big talk" conversation prompts to get you started, and we'll have lots of structure to make sure that you actually talk to people and that it's not awkward. Not feeling like answering a particular question? No worries, we'll have plenty to choose from, like, "When are you the happiest?" and, "If you were going to become close friends with me, what would I need to know about you?" We'll give you ground rules to make sure you feel comfortable and safe sharing as much of yourself as possible while still feeling in complete control of how much you share.

There will be food and drinks for sale!

Check-in for this event will begin around 6:30 pm. Please do your best to arrive before 7:00 pm so we can begin as close to on time as possible. Please note that there is an arrival cutoff, meaning that if you are not in line to check in before 7:10 pm, unfortunately, you will not be able to participate and we will not be able to offer refunds.

Skip the Small Talk is dedicated to providing an inclusive, welcoming environment for everyone. Check out our safety policy here:

You would probably have a good time at this event if all of the following are true of you:
- You are aged 21+ and would be happy to go on dates with folks any age 21+ (Hoping to date in a narrower age range? Check out our as they become available— we are always adding more.)
- You are polyamorous (monogamous events are also often available— feel free to check out !)
- You would enjoy dating someone of any gender (we have for folks who only want to date people of a particular gender)

If any of the above statements are NOT true of you, you might want to see if our are a better fit. We do our best to accommodate as many different demographics as possible given limited capacity for our speed-dating events, and we are always working to include more! Any suggestions for how we can be more inclusive? Please feel free to reach out to us at [email protected].

This event is trans-inclusive. We do not tolerate transphobia at this or any of our events.

We can only accommodate a limited number of guests at this event, so please plan to grab a ticket as soon as you think you'd like to join us.

We are proud to offer “Understudy Tickets” for free. If you "purchase" a free Understudy Ticket, you agree to show up to our event at or before 7:00 pm, check in, and wait until we assign everyone to their first table. If you are assigned to a table, that means you are welcome to participate in the entirety of the event for free! If you are not assigned to a table, it means we regrettably were not able to fit you in, and you are free to do what you’d like for the rest of the night (we recommend hanging at Trident Books or exploring nearby, but you’re of course also welcome to head home if you’d like). We never know in advance how many Understudy Ticket holders we will be able to accommodate, but we prioritize who we let in based on who arrives first, so we recommend checking in with us early.

Grab a ticket since entry is on a first come first serve basis and we tend to sell out in advance for these-- once we are out of tickets, we will NOT be able to accommodate folks at the door.

Want to check out what else is going on at Trident Books? Check out their full event calendar .

If you want to be the first to hear about our events before we sell out, feel free to join our mailing list at .

See our Skip the Small Talk question prompt card deck (and buy your own if you want) .

If you want to get more of a vibe of what our events are like, have a look at the videos below and check out our (which also covers stuff like our refund policy, arriving late, age range, and hiring us for corporate/ college/ private events).

Host or Publisher Skip the Small Talk