Open Community Potluck & Discussion San Jose

Come share stories, build connections, and meet new friends in a welcoming space centered on authentic, intentional, open-hearted relationships in community.

This community values consent, honesty, authenticity, vulnerability, kindness, acceptance, and accountability.

You don’t have to be dating, or practicing any particular relationship style — if these values resonate with you, you’re invited.

By attending this event, you agree to read and abide by these community guidelines.

- Expect to encounter a variety of relationship styles, orientations, gender expressions, and life experiences.

-Comfort levels around touch, storytelling, and boundaries will vary.

-What we all have in common is an interest in cultivating intentional and authentic relationships.

-You are invited to be curious—ask questions, listen, learn, and share.

-You are invited — but not required — to hold space for others and for yourself.

-Holding space means letting people speak their truth and exist as they are, without assumptions, judgment, advice, or pressure to fix anything.

-Sometimes this is the only place where someone gets to simply be.

-You are invited to listen with presence and empathy.

CONSENT ✅

-A “yes” means yes. A “no,” silence, “maybe,” or hesitation means no.

-If you hear no, respect it without needing an explanation.

-A yes now doesn’t automatically mean a yes later — ongoing consent matters and can always change.

-You may see hugging, cuddling, or kissing—and people saying yes to some and no to others.

-Always ask before entering someone’s personal space. For example: “Would you like a hug?” or “May I sit next to you?”

-If you want, you can offer alternative connections: “I’m no to a hug, but yes to a high five or handshake.”

-Some people here are open to sharing everything, while others prefer to keep explicit or personal stories private.

-Please pause to ask the people around you before sharing explicit stories (sex, kink, BDSM) without consent.

-Everything shared in this group should be treated as confidential and private.

-Do not share stories that name others without their permission.

-Do not greet people outside this group in a way that could out them.

-Do not take or share photos/videos without the clear consent of everyone who would be photographed.

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TICKETS 🎟️

An Eventbrite ticket is required to attend

If cost would keep you from attending, see the NOTAFLOF policy at the bottom of the description.

RSVP ON PLURA

Optional but recommended : You are encouraged to to let everyone know you’re attending, gain access to the event chat, and have the opportunity to make connections.

REMINDER: Plura RSVP does not hold your spot — Eventbrite ticket is needed for each attendee.

LOCATION

This event is being hosted at a private residence in San Jose. Address will be shared in the confirmation email.

Do not share the address without permission from a host. Direct all address requests to Rose.

HOSTS

Rose, Donal, Joanna

ACCESSIBILITY

Some stairs to get in and out of the house. A second story is available, but not neccessary to access the social spaces.

PETS

Two dogs live at this residence. If allergic, please medicate accordingly.

WHEN ARE THINGS HAPPENING?

If it’s your first time attending, arriving on time for the opening circle is essential. If you’ll be late and miss the opening circle, please reschedule. Returning attendees, let a host or others know if you’ll be late.

7:00 – 8:00 PM | Socializing & Potluck Dinner

8:00 – 8:15 PM | Opening Circle (Community Agreements & Topic)

8:15 – 9:15 PM | Small Group Discussions

9:15 – 9:30 PM | Closing Circle

9:30 - 10:00 PM | Freestyle Socializing

DISCUSSION TOPIC

TBD - WILL BE UPDATED

Have an idea? Let us know. We're always taking suggestions ;)

POTLUCK FOOD

This is a dinnertime potluck—please bring food or drinks to share. Home-cooked or takeout is welcome. Gluten-free and low-sugar options are often appreciated, and wholesome, filling dishes are always a great choice.

Please write in the Plura chat what you will be bringing in the days before the event.

Feel free to ask Rose if you want a suggestion for what to bring.

PARKING

Street Parking

DRINKING/SMOKING

Alcohol or cannabis are not the focus of these events. If you want to partake, bring your own, and consume responsibly and in moderation. No smoking of tobacco on the property.

DONATIONS

If you would like to support to the organizer beyond the price of a ticket, here are two additional options:

1) Purchase a donation ticket for the amount of your choosing, instead of the default paid ticket.

2) Click this link to.

NOTAFLOF POLICY

No One Turned Away For Lack Of Funds. If the full price of a ticket would keep you from attending for any reason, promo codes for half off or free tickets are available for use at this or future events - no questions asked.

-Promo code FREE reduces ticket price by 100% -Promo code 50off reduces ticket price by 50%

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Host or Publisher Rose