Open Community Discussion Potluck San Jose 9/11/26

Connect with non monogamous community in the south bay over a shared potluck meal and conversation.
About this Event

Come share stories, build connections, and meet new friends in a welcoming space centered on authentic, intentional, open-hearted relationships in community.

This community values consent, honesty, authenticity, vulnerability, kindness, acceptance, and accountability.

You don’t have to be dating, or practicing any particular relationship style — if these values resonate with you, you’re invited.

__________________________________

WHAT TO EXPECT at a glance
Overall Event Flow

• We start with freestyle socializing and a casual potluck.
• Opening circle starts promptly at 8pm, where we review guidelines and introduce the discussion topic.
• We then break into small discussion groups for about an hour. Topics vary and usually center around non-monogamy, connection, or communication.

The Social Landscape

• You will see PDA between friends and partners: hugs, hand-holding, light kissing, cuddling individually or in groups, etc.
• Many attendees are returning and already know each other. New attendees often find things become more comfortable by their 2nd or 3rd event.

Navigating the Space

This is more than a discussion group or potluck. It’s a community gathering place to practice connection, communication, boundaries, vulnerability, and authenticity.

We all arrive with different communication styles and social conditioning. Expect to experience or witness awkward adjustment periods —and the sooner you understand that the learning never really stops, the easier it is to empathize with others.

You may be invited into conversation, friendship, cuddling, flirting, or more. Alternately, we do not guarantee that you will fit, or that anyone will connect with you at all.

__________________________________

COMMUNITY GUIDELINES

By attending this event, you agree to read and abide by these community guidelines.

Consent 🤝

• Ask before entering someone’s personal space. "Would you like a hug?" or "Can I sit here next to you?"
• A yes once does not equal blanket consent all the time.
• Anything that is not a Yes is a No, including hesitation, silence, or No.
• You may see and experience people saying yes to some people and no to others

Physical Touch

• Consensual affection (hugging, cuddling, kissing) between attendees who are comfortable with each other is common.
• You may see or be invited into platonic touch. Participation is always optional, and saying no is welcomed and respected.
• If you’re looking for spaces to build comfort with platonic touch and practice navigating boundaries, check out Autumn’s platonic touch workshops.

Conversation 💬

• This is not a kink/sex focused event
• Check with others within hearing distance before sharing explicit sexual/kink details
• Respect different comfort levels

Holding Space 🤗

• You are invited to hold space for others and for yourself.
• Holding space means letting people speak their truth and exist as they are, without assumptions, judgment, unsolicited advice, or pressure to fix anything.

Confidentiality 🤫

• Everything shared in this group should be treated as confidential and private.
• Do not share stories that name others without their permission.
• Do not greet people outside this group in a way that could out them.
• Do not take or share photos/videos without the clear consent of everyone involved.

Diversity 🌈

• Expect to encounter a variety of relationship styles, orientations, gender expressions, life experiences
• Comfort levels around touch, vulnerability, and boundaries will vary

EVENT CONDUCT

• This event is a non-sexual space. While kissing/cuddling/flirting may occur, but don't get carried away.
• Clothes stay on at all times

SCHEDULE

New attendees: You are required to be on time for opening circle. If you realize you will be late for opening circle at your first event, please do not attend, and instead plan to attend a future event.

7:00–8:00 Socializing & Potluck

8:00–8:15 Opening Circle

8:15–9:15 Small Group Discussion

9:15–9:30 Closing Circle

9:30–10:00 Social Time

SMALL DISCUSSION GROUP (What to expect)

• Attendees will be divided into small groups of 3–6 people for about 1 hour.
• Groups are conversation-focused around a shared topic.
• Some attendees may choose to sit close, hold hands, or cuddle with other consenting participants while talking.
• You’re welcome to listen, share, or simply be present. Participation in conversation or platonic touch is optional. It is acceptable to just listen if that is your wish.
• If you came with a partner or support person, you can choose to be in the same group together or join different groups.
• To stay together in small group: Sit next to each other during opening circle and let the facilitator know when count off reaches you.

Topic: TBD

VENUE DETAILS

Location: Private home in San Jose. The exact location will be included in the confirmation email after obtaining eventbrite ticket. Be sure to scroll down in the confirmation email to find it.

Parking: Street parking nearby

Accessibility: Two story house with 3 sets of stairs. Stairs to get inside the house, out to the patio, and upstairs. Some steps between areas.

Pets

Two large dogs live at this residence. If allergic, please medicate accordingly.

POTLUCK 🍲

Bring food or drinks to share (home-cooked or takeout). On the day of the event, you are encouraged to share what you are bringing in the Plura event chat.

SUBSTANCES

• No hard drugs
• Alcohol & cannabis okay (in moderation)
• No cigarettes
• Smoke outside, away from others

CONNECTION & FEEDBACK

to join the event chat, see who else is attending, and let others know you are attending.

Want to keep in the loop about events with Open Community?

Send an email to [email protected] and request to be added to the open community email list.

This email can also be used to send feedback, suggestions, topic ideas, or offers to host or facilitate.

You can also follow us on Plura through Open Community events

Or join the Open Community Topic on Plura to chat with others from community

TICKET OPTIONS

There are several types of tickets, and different options for how to obtain a ticket.

1) EPAY (Skip Eventbrite fees)

Use the EPAY promo code at checkout. Send payment after ticket confirmation.

$5 for volunteers, $15 for new & standard tickets, $20 for supporting tickets:

• Venmo (Preferred): @Rosezeitler
• Apple Cash: [email protected]
• PayPal: @Rosezeitler
• Select the correct payment option so your app doesn’t take or add fees. Note potluck and the event date.

2) CASH

Use the CASH promo code, then pay Rose directly at the event.

VOLUNTEER

• A limited quantity of discounted volunteer tickets are available.

3) MC / HOSTS

• Free tickets for MCs and Hosts

4) FREE

If the cost of a ticket would keep you from attending for any reason, use promo code FREE at checkout for a free ticket.

No questions asked, no volunteering required.

#Nonmonogamy #Non-Monogamy #Polyamory #OpenRelationship #EthicalNonMonogamy #AlternativeLifestyle #Community #Nontraditional