Open Community Discussion Potluck San Jose 4/24/26

Come share stories, build connections, and meet new friends in a welcoming space centered on authentic, intentional, open-hearted relationships in community.

This community values consent, honesty, authenticity, vulnerability, kindness, acceptance, and accountability.

You don’t have to be dating, or practicing any particular relationship style — if these values resonate with you, you’re invited.

By attending this event, you agree to read and abide by these community guidelines.

Expect to encounter a variety of relationship styles, orientations, gender expressions, life experiences, as well as comfort levels around touch and boundaries.

-You are invited to hold space for others and for yourself.

-Holding space means letting people speak their truth and exist as they are, without assumptions, judgment, unsolicited advice, or pressure to fix anything.

-Consensual hugging, cuddling, or kissing may happen at this event.

-You may see people saying yes to some and no to others.

-Always ask before entering someone’s personal space. For example: “Would you like a hug?” or “May I sit next to you?”

-A “yes” means yes. A no, silence, maybe, or hesitation all mean no.

-If you hear no, respect it and move on gracefully.

-A yes now doesn’t automatically mean a yes later — unless someone offers you ongoing consent, which they can still change their mind on later.

-Some people here are open to sharing everything, while others prefer not to hear or share explicit details. When you are considering sharing explicit details (sex, kink, BDSM), first assess the people around you, and if you are not familiar with their comfort levels regarding explicit details, ask first before sharing.

-Everything shared in this group should be treated as confidential and private.

-Do not share stories that name others without their permission.

-Do not greet people outside this group in a way that could out them.

-Do not take or share photos/videos without the clear consent of everyone who would be photographed.

-Kissing, cuddling, and flirting may happen — otherwise, this is a non-sexual space.

-Clothing stays on for the entire event.

-Exception: This venue has a hot tub available after discussion is officially over.

Attendees may choose to wear a swimsuit or be nude. The hot tub is a non-sexual space.

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An Eventbrite ticket is required to attend

If cost would keep you from attending, see the "Ways to Pay or Not Pay" section at the bottom of the description for discounted or free options.

to RSVP on Plura. Let others know you’re attending, join the event chat, and make connections.

REMINDER: Plura RSVP does not hold your spot. An eventbrite ticket is needed for each attendee.

These events are posted on Plura through Open Heart Gatherings.

There is also an Open Community topic thread on Plura.

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This event is being hosted at a private residence in San Jose, CA. Address will be shared in the confirmation email.

Do not share the address without permission from a host. Direct all address requests to Rose.

This is a one story house. There are some steps to get into the house, and single step level changes throughout the house. Not easily navigable for wheelchairs/walking assists.

There are no pets here, aside from the chickens out back, which are in a coop.

Arrive on time for opening circle.

New attendees: Being present for your first opening circle is mandatory. If you realize you'll arrive after opening circle, please do not attend. Instead, ask for a refund on your ticket and plan on attending a future potluck.

Returning attendees: Aim to be on time to reduce disruption. If you will arrive late, discreetly join a small discussion group.

7:00 – 8:00 PM | Socializing & Potluck Dinner

8:00 – 8:15 PM | Opening Circle (Community Agreements & Topic)

8:15 – 9:15 PM | Small Group Discussions

9:15 – 9:30 PM | Closing Circle

9:30 - 10:00 PM | Freestyle Socializing

Holding Space Without Burning Out

In friendships, relationships, and communities, it’s easy for connections to drift into a “therapy-like” role without meaning to—especially when one person goes deeper than the other is ready for. Over time, this can stretch our emotional energy.

How do we notice when care, depth, or holding space is more than we can handle? And how do we respond in ways that honor both our limits and the relationship?

Questions to explore:

• How do you recognize your own limits before vulnerability or care becomes overwhelming?
• What tools or phrases help you set boundaries clearly and kindly?
• How do you navigate when your need for support doesn’t match someone else’s capacity?
• What does it feel like to be in a connection that’s sustainable for you?
• Have you ever realized you were asking for more than someone could give? How did you adjust?

POTLUCK FOOD

This is a dinnertime potluck—please bring food or drinks to share. Home-cooked or takeout is welcome. Gluten-free and low-sugar options are often appreciated, and wholesome, filling dishes are always a great choice.

Please write in the Plura chat what you will be bringing in the days before the event.

Street parking available. Please do not park in the driveway or park so close to the driveway that you are blocking the driveway. Parking is usually easily available within a short walk.

No hard drugs at this event.

Alcohol and Cannabis are OK.

Smoking should only happen outside away from other attendees.

Drinking and smoking are not the focus of this event, and should be enjoyed in moderation.

Use promo codes at checkout

1) EPAY (Skip Eventbrite fees)
Use the EPAY promo code, pay upon confirmation.

$5 for volunteers, $15 for standard & new tickets, $20 for supporting tickets:

• Venmo (Preferred): @Rosezeitler
• Apple Cash: [email protected]
• PayPal: @Rosezeitler
• Select the correct payment option so your app doesn’t take or add fees.

2) CASH

Use the CASH promo code, then pay Rose directly at the event.

VOLUNTEER

• A limited quantity of discounted volunteer tickets are available. If these ticket are sold out and you're hoping to volunteer, ask Rose if there's any ways you can help.

Volunteer roles can include:

• Greeting attendees
• Directing potluck items to the food table
• Managing the food table
• Keeping time for the MC
• Dishes & cleanup
• End-of-night tidying

3) MC / HOSTS
Free tickets for MCs and Hosts
Let Rose know if you have a co-host

5) FREE
If the cost of a ticket would keep you from attending for any reason, use promo code HUGS at checkout for a free ticket.
No questions asked, no volunteering required.

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