Gottman Couples Workshop: The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work

Also being held the weekend of January 24 & 25, The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work is a program of The Gottman Institute (TGI) designed to educate couples on the research-based discoveries of John Gottman, PhD pertaining to marital satisfaction. The program imparts in practical ways Dr. Gottman's four decades of research on the habits of couples in solid relationships.

His scientific, longitudinal studies of thoustands of couples, conducted at the University of Washington, are without peer in their measurement of everything from verbal exchanges to vital signs, to stress hormones, to conflict-recovery techniques. Dr. Gottman's research has made him the author on marriage most often quoted by other authors on marriage.

So, if you’ve ever wondered why some couples thrive relationally while others dive, this seminar will provide answers. In a few hours, you will learn the six toxic patterns of "disaster couples" whose relationships end, and the seven patterns observed in "master couples" whose relationships last and thrive. As a couple, you will also engage in private couple exercises to help you apply these insights to your relationship.

This is a live workshop (6-9PM Friday, 9AM-4PM Saturday), limited to twelve (12) couples.

Registration costs less than my four-hour intake session for couples, but provides a wealth of foundational concepts upon which to build, should you seek couples therapy. Each registering couple also recieves a copy of Dr. Gottman's book of the same title: The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work.

Nine (9) CEUs are available to professionals for $25 by purchasing the ticket add-on.(Those seeking CEUs will be asked to sign-in on Friday evening, Saturday morning, and Saturday afternoon. Professionals attending without a partner are welcome to register solo or to split the cost with another professional by registering together on the same ticket. Each can purchase an add-on ticket for CEU documentation.)

What past attendees have said:

• “....right on TARGET for what we were looking for!”
• "Thanks for the very informative session. I learned new 'tools' I can use to be a better communicator and partner."
• “ A guide map for communication, how to strengthen and love and address conflicts/past.”
• "The Love Maps and the antidotes to The Four Horsemen will be very helpful."
• "The content was great, but the personal examples definitely made it relatable."
• "Overall, this is a 5 out of 5 stars! Thanks!"
• "I enjoyed experiencing this seminar with couples in all stages of life."
• "A highlight for me was learning about conflict resolution in a safe, fair, and supportive way."
• (I'm now) "...able to identify what the argument is really about, and identify how the other is processing things."
• "This has been a roadmap to get our relationship back on track."
• "My eyes have been opened more fully to the perpetual vs. solvable problems in any relationship."
• “Giving language to conflict. Very helpful when navigating arguments.”
• "I feel less doomed about our conflict; it's a validation that although we need help resolving it, we are not broken because we have it."
• “The methodical approach to relationships. What helped me the most was the scientific reasoning and physiological explanations of how we go through the different emotions.”
• “Knowing and seeing all couples have similar issues AND there are ways to reverse bad patterns….HOPE!”
• “Finding the words to verbalize some feelings/views that I had…up until this session, I had not been able to articulate.”
• “The most valuable (tool) was how to repair….the language to repair.”
• “Hearing what is normal….what we are going through is not a deal breaker.”
• "The best marriage seminar we've attended!"
• “....how to BETTER recognize things within myself and the antidotes to overcome them.”
• “....(valued) the time and opportunity to deliberately focus on our marriage for a weekend.”
• “I found all of the information given valuable. Having the resources and tools to fall back on and practice together seems priceless to me.”
• (valued terms) “help me understand and protecting each other”
• “It’s great to have a common language to set the table for future healthy conversations.”
• “It’s valuable to be reminded that marriage is a commitment that takes effort. Everyone deals with challenges and being reminded of that and working through strategies to improve is very valuable.”
• “Remembering it’s not about me…..but WE!”

FAQS:

Must both partners attend?

Ideally, yes, as it is advantageous for both partners to be exposed to the content, rather than one trying to relay it to the other. In addition, couple exercises are part of the event. But if one partner is able and willing to attend, though the other is not, they are welcome to do so.

Is the seminar only for married couples?

No; the material applies equally well to couples who are dating or engaged.

Will we share our struggles publicly?

No, couple exercises are done privately. Participation in group discussion is voluntary.

Do we have to read the book?

No, but learning is enhanced by the additional information provided in the book.

How many couples will be present?

The event is limited to twelve (12) couples.

Do we have to print and bring Eventbrite tickets?

No.

Where can I contact the organizer?

Please email [email protected] or call (913) 642-2190.

Host or Publisher Dr. Doug and Claudia Burford