ENM Speed Dating for Individuals

Hosted by ENM Matchmaker Victoria and her husband Ryan, in collaboration with Birds of a Feather Matchmaking, we invite you to an intentionally curated evening of connection.

This experience is designed for individuals interested in ethical non-monogamy, offering a welcoming and elevated space for singles and solos to meet like-minded people. Whether you are new to ENM or well-versed, the evening is crafted to foster meaningful interactions, aligned values, and genuine chemistry.

Guests will enjoy a thoughtfully structured format that encourages engaging conversations, while maintaining a relaxed, respectful atmosphere. Our goal is to create an environment where connections—romantic, platonic, or social—can develop organically and comfortably.

We welcome all self-identified women and men and aim to cultivate a diverse and inclusive space. While this particular event follows a traditional format using binary gender structuring, we recognize that this may not fully reflect the breadth of our community. We deeply value our non-binary and LGBTQ+ community members and are actively exploring ways to create more inclusive event formats. We welcome your insight and invite you to connect with Victoria directly to share feedback or collaborate.

Event Details:

• Open to all sexualities and relationship styles within the ethical non-monogamy spectrum
• Attendees primarily identify as heterosexual or bisexual
• Structured speed dating format designed to maximize meaningful connections
• Relaxed, guided environment that supports open and honest dialogue
• Experienced hosts facilitating the experience to ensure comfort and flow

Who This Event Is For:

• Singles and solos
• Those in the lifestyle/swinger community
• Individuals in open relationships
• Polyamorous individuals
• Monogamish daters
• Kink-aware or kink-involved individuals
• Those new to non-monogamy
• Relationship anarchists
• Both curious and experienced non-monogamists

What to Expect:

• Warm welcome and check-in with hosts upon arrival
• Name tag creation and distribution of a personalized connection tracker
• Brief opening remarks outlining the flow of the evening
• A series of short, engaging one-on-one conversations
• Collection of tracker sheets following the structured portion
• Open mingling to continue connections organically
• A supportive space to share intentions, boundaries, and desires

After the event, hosts will review all connection preferences. In the case of a mutual match, contact information will be shared with the woman (unless otherwise specified), allowing you to continue building your connection at your own pace.

Our intention is to provide a judgment-free environment where you can explore connections that align with your relationship values and desires.

Whether you are seeking romantic possibilities, new friendships, or an expanded ENM community, this experience offers a unique and intentional way to meet others who share your perspective.

Join us for an evening of engaging conversations, new encounters, and meaningful possibilities.

Additional Details:

• Tickets: $35 online, $45 at the door (cash, Zelle, PayPal, Venmo accepted)
• Dress Code: Dress to impress—you’ll be on multiple first dates throughout the evening

Stay Connected:

• Join our complimentary registry: https://app.levelconnections.com/m/birds-of-a-feather
• Sign up for Insider Alerts: https://reseat.app/pages/birds-of-a-feather-insider-alerts/4102
• Follow @ENMmatchmaker and @birdsofafeathermm on Instagram for updates

Please Note:

• Photos and videos may be taken for promotional purposes; inform the host if you prefer not to be included
• All tickets are non-refundable and non-transferable

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