Connection Simplified: The Deep Side of Community Building

It is with sadness that we inform you that Paddles is closing. It has been an institution in New York City for over 30 years, and we thank them for their dedication to our community.

Our monthly event there, “Dungeon” has been evolving, and so we are pleased to present:

Connection Simplified: The Deep Side of Community Building

Hours: 8PM till 1AM.

Registration at Eventbrite here: https://www.eventbrite.com/e/366004668817

Cash at the door

*Dress Code: Whatever makes you feel confident & sexy. Be authentically you!

This event is open to all genders and levels of experience. We offer everyone in attendance the opportunity to learn and grow in a safe place with like-minded individuals. If you are new to kink, curious about it, or an experienced life stylist, this is an experience you won’t want to miss.

What makes us different from the rest?

The Kink Collective sets a tone which allows each person to create deep and more meaningful connections throughout their experience. We help build conversations around who we are rather than what we do, through our philosophy of People Before Kink. This event will leave you more confident in your ability to connect meaningfully with others.

In service to our community, we educate others and prepare them to pursue their own journey. We also see that people have a hard time knowing how to make connections, how to approach others. By attending, you gain the skills and confidence to allow you to make connections at our events and then take these experiences with you as you go along your journey. Take time to think about how you want to feel and come to our events prepared to share that with those you meet.

This is not a play party, however, if as a result of this process, you make a connection with someone and they agree to share an experience with you, one of us will help guide you through it. Connection Simplified gives you the autonomy to take responsibility for yourself and your journey. The format stays fresh because you are always meeting new people and those connections fuel your journey every time you attend.

Schedule of Events:

8:00-8:45 pm: Social Time

Come meet your hosts, DMs, and other attendees as the event starts. This is a great time to put names to faces as you make yourself comfortable, and allow yourself to build confidence. This social opportunity will allow you to meet one another without an agenda outside of connection. Keep in mind our DMs (will have glowing arm bands) can assist in facilitating introductions and can answer any questions that you may have during this time!

8:45 - 9:00 pm: Safety Briefing and Event format

Safety is our number one priority for ALL in attendance. We will introduce our event format, a constructed series of questions that will help you connect with others at the event. We firmly believe that as you get to know the people around you, you become open to explore yourself authentically. Let us help you do that.

When we are done with the safety briefing, the space will be open for continued conversation. Two stations will open for twenty minute increments. White boards will be used to reserve the stations. Scenes must be conducted safely and we will be on-hand to facilitate technical skill and safety. Play is not the focal point, the focus is enriched connection.

EVENT RULES

We are all about consent. Do not touch before asking, EVER.

You are able to withdraw consent at any time. Once consent has been withdrawn, activity is to stop IMMEDIATELY. Ensure in negotiation you are discussing safe words and signals.

The Top is legally responsible for stopping the scene at any sign consent is withdrawn. The bottom is morally responsible for ensuring they are clear and unequivocal when withdrawing consent.

If you have a concern, or witness a consent violation, please address it directly with us. No matter how small you may think it is.

No means NO. Includes: requests for scenes, touching individuals or implements & inappropriate behavior.

Everybody is equal REGARDLESS of how YOU identify. Respect everyone!

While a scene is in progress, please DO NOT interrupt.

We all help to maintain the integrity and compliance of scene safety. Keep your play scenes safer. If you aren't sure, ask.

No Violence, threats or challenging behavior.

Kink-Collective holds the final decision. House safe words are red and yellow.

You are responsible for your guests' behavior.

You attend at your own risk.

BDSM play can be intense. If you are or think you are being triggered by something, it is YOUR responsibility to remove yourself from the area and take care of yourself.

Ask for help If you are going to engage in any sort of Edge Play (knives, fire, suspension, etc.), please notify a DM in advance so that if we have to respond to a problem, we know in advance what we are dealing with.

No photos or videos of any kind - unless authorized & supervised by event staff.

The DM and staff have the right to observe and monitor scenes for safety at any time.

Clean equipment prior and post use. You don’t know who used it last.

**Disclaimer:

Our events are for those interested in making genuine connections with others. People Before Kink is the philosophy and guide for all in attendance. We will hold everyone to these standards and there is a 1-strike policy. Anyone who cannot conduct themselves in a courteous and socially appropriate manner will be escorted off premises and excluded from any future KINK-COLLECTIVE events. If there are any questions, concerns or suggestions regarding our rules and regulations please feel free to email us at [email protected]. Your input is valuable to us.

Host or Publisher Kink Collective