Blueberry Muffins and Working with Anger: Fear of Others Reactivity

Presented by Barbra Esher and Assisted by Chris Hartstein in-person- Please register before coming because I have limited space!

Do we rebel, submit, or something different?

One of the many reasons people get interested in Nonviolent Communication (NVC) is they want to know how to speak so as not to make someone else angry. And still, even after years of training and practice, we can’t control someone else’s reactivity.

The more I work with NVC consciousness, the more choices I have in how to listen and speak in a way that reflects my values. If I want connection with someone, I am able to listen more deeply and more likely to be able to express what is most important to me, as compared to ten years ago. And still, sometimes people get triggered, although, less often. It is a living and learning process, not a destination. It takes practice, with anger in particular.

In the workshop description, I put a question mark after “boundaries?” because sometimes, anger from others stimulates so much trauma within ourselves based on our past experiences that we may choose to not connect with the other person or request certain criteria to be in place as we heal our own wounds.

We will be discussing the topic as a group and participating in smaller dyads or triads. Please keep in mind that you are in choice at all times. Let us know if you want to be in a small group based on one of your identities or if you would prefer to journal on your own for any reason.

Please join us in person at my house in Carvel Beach, MD. The first 9 people that register for the in-person event will get a muffin made with home grown organic blueberries! We are experimenting with having it available as a hybrid event, so if for some reason you can’t meet us in person, consider joining us virtually, including all of the imperfections that come with that technology. Click here to register for that option. https://www.eventbrite.com/e/on-line-live-working-with-anger-fear-of-others-reactivity-tickets-310522259437 or contact me here, deleting spaces Qi of NVC @gmail.com

Working with Anger

Part 1: Fear of Other People’s Reactivity, April 24th

Part 2: Listening When Someone is Exploding (TBA)

Part 3: Expressing Yourself When You Are in the Fire (TBA)

Carvel Beach address sent with registration. I am just a few miles south of Baltimore, in Northern AA County

More Information

This event usually occurs monthly on the third Sunday to support Nonviolent communication (NVC) understanding and practice. This month, it occurs on the forth Sunday because of Easter.

We welcome new participants at any level. It’s fun when a ‘newbie’ comes and we, ‘newbies’ not so long ago, suddenly see that we’ve learned something important we can pass on, at the same time deepening our understanding of new contexts. If you're already skilled in NVC, we would enjoy sharing support and companionship.

$$ info:  The requested fee is $20-$50 per person. Please don't let the cost keep you from coming. Contact me if money is keeping you from attending. Sustainability is important to me and contribution even more so, which I can't do unless you show up! For more information call Barbra at 410 499 1986 or email (deleting spaces): Qi of NVC @gmail.com

Barbra Esher, CNVC certified trainer

It’s easy to be present when life is pleasant and can be tough when times are challenging.

I dream of a world in which we all have the capacity to stay connected with ourselves and each other in the challenging times. I specialize in untangling knots of pain, discovering the beauty locked inside of each of us, and facilitating a free flow of life energy and interconnection. Racism, addiction, and death have been my greatest teachers and favorite topics for seminars and coaching. I love coaching and connecting around any communication topics as well, such as challenges with relationships and parenting.

Early in my son’s 10-year journey with addiction, we were introduced to Nonviolent Communication (NVC). This supported transforming our relationship from shame and blame to love and acceptance. My capacity for saying “yes!” to life, exactly as it is, has been deeply cultivated by a Nonviolent Communication and life-long mindfulness practice. Responding from that yes and love rather than old trauma is my life-long practice, one day at a time, one breath at a time, one heart at a time.

My relationship with Zen master Thich Nhat Hanh has animated my work in promoting peace, reconciliation, and social justice. I have pursued my aspirations with zeal, accumulating hundreds of thousands of hours of training all over the world in multiple modalities, including 30 years’ experience in the healing arts of acupuncture, shiatsu, and East Asian medicine.

I look forward to connecting with you.

Email me: [email protected] or +1(410)360-3534 (land line)

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