20s and 30s Speed-Dating (Monogamous)

EVENT START-END | 7:00 pm - 9:00 pm ET
CHECK-IN BEGINS | 6:45 pm ET (Guests who are not in line to check in by 7:10 pm cannot be accommodated)
WHERE | Torch & Crown Brewing Company, 12 Vandam St, New York, NY 10013 ()
AGE RANGE | 20s-30s: This event is centered on people in their 20s-30s, but we welcome guests a year or two over that range who would feel comfortable dating people in the above age group. If you are outside of this age range, don't worry-- we have a lot of other events on our calendar, including all-ages events, that might be a better fit! Please be sure to bring your government-issued ID, as this venue is 21+.
FOOD/DRINKS | Dinner, fresh beer, and NY state wine and cocktails will all be available, so come hungry and thirsty! There is a 1 drink/food item minimum for this event, and you can check out the full menu .
PARKING / PUBLIC TRANSPORTATION | Accessible via public transportation. Parking garage nearby.
ACCESSIBILITY & OTHER VENUE DETAILS | Wheelchair accessible. There will be enough seating to accommodate all guests. Gender affirming restrooms will be available. For ASL and any other accommodations not listed, please see more info .
COVID-19 PROCEDURES | Masking is optional, but recommended.

Hear from real attendees in the videos at the bottom of the page!

Want to get off your dating apps and meet someone in real life, but where you don’t have to find out that every cute person at the party is unavailable? Do you think that IRL speed dating is generally awkward and weird? So do we. That’s why we’re putting a Skip the Small Talk twist on dating.

Skip the Small Talks are usually **NOT** for dating, but so many of y’all asked us for a dating event that we decided to make an exception!

We'll be offering "big talk" conversation prompts to get you started, and we'll have lots of structure to make sure that you actually talk to people and that it's not awkward. Not feeling like answering a particular question? No worries, we'll have plenty to choose from, like, "When are you the happiest?" and, "If you were going to become close friends with me, what would I need to know about you?" We'll give you ground rules to make sure you feel comfortable and safe sharing as much of yourself as possible while still feeling in complete control of how much you share.

There will be food and drinks for sale! There is a 1 drink/food item minimum purchase for this event,so please keep that in mind.

Check-in for this event will begin around 6:45 pm. Please do your best to arrive before 7:00 pm so we can begin as close to on time as possible. Please note that there is an arrival cutoff, meaning that if you are not in line to check in before 7:10 pm, unfortunately, you will not be able to participate and we will not be able to offer refunds.

Skip the Small Talk is dedicated to providing an inclusive, welcoming environment for everyone. Check out our safety policy here:

You would probably have a good time at this event if all of the following are true of you:
- You are in your 20s and 30s (up to a few years older is cool, too, and if you’re not in this age range, feel free to check out our ).
- You are monogamous (polyamorous events are also often available— feel free to check out !)
- You either feel a connection to the identity of “man” and you are interested in dating women, or you feel a connection to the identity of “woman” and you are interested in dating men. Gender nonconforming folks who feel connected to one of those genders in some way are absolutely welcome. (We also host to accommodate gender nonconforming folks who don’t feel a connection to the identity of “man” or “woman”).

If any of the above statements are NOT true of you, you might want to see if our are a better fit. We do our best to accommodate as many different demographics as possible given limited capacity for our speed-dating events, and we are always working to include more! Any suggestions for how we can be more inclusive? Please feel free to reach out to us at [email protected].

This event is trans-inclusive. We do not tolerate transphobia at this or any of our events.

We can only accommodate a limited number of guests at this event, so please plan to grab a ticket as soon as you think you'd like to join us.

We are proud to offer “Understudy Tickets” for free. If you "purchase" a free Understudy Ticket, you agree to show up to our event at or before 7:00 pm, check in, and wait until we assign everyone to their first table. If you are assigned to a table, that means you are welcome to participate in the entirety of the event for free! If you are not assigned to a table, it means we regrettably were not able to fit you in, and you are free to do what you’d like for the rest of the night (we recommend hanging at Torch & Crown Brewing Company or exploring nearby, but you’re of course also welcome to head home if you’d like). We never know in advance how many Understudy Ticket holders we will be able to accommodate, but we prioritize who we let in based on who arrives first, so we recommend checking in with us early.

Grab a ticket since entry is on a first come first serve basis and we tend to sell out in advance for these-- once we are out of tickets, we will NOT be able to accommodate folks at the door.

Torch & Crown hosts lots of other fun events, too. Feel free to check them out !

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Want more details or have more questions? Check out these videos and/or our !

Host or Publisher Skip the Small Talk